Many jails provide a variety of visitation options during the week and you should take advantage of this if you can. Though your inmate will be thrilled to see you at any time, strategic scheduling can make a big difference in the quality of the visit.
Time of Day
Choose a time that he or she will be most receptive. If your inmate is the type to be wide awake at 6a.m. and tends to lose steam at noon, morning visits are probably best. For those inmates who go back to bed after morning chow and can barely wake up by noon, an evening or late afternoon visit is recommended, if possible.
Take away: Your inmate will enjoy the visit more if he or she is awake and mentally present, not sleepy and barely alert.
Day of the Week
Time in jail moves at a snail’s pace. so inmates depend on commissary deliveries and visits to break up the week and help to pass the time. Find out when commissary is ordered and delivered
, and choose a visitation day that does not have either of those things happening. This will give your inmate something to look forward to on the non-commissary days.
Take away: Inmates mark their time by looking forward to the future. Knowing you will be there on non-commissary days will mix up the week more.
Touch the Heart
Regardless of the confidence your inmate shows during visits, he or she is bound to have some fear and insecurities while doing time. The obvious dates such as anniversaries and holidays are great to share with your inmate, but can you surprise him or her with other dates? Is it the anniversary of the day you met? Schedule a visit and talk about that first meeting and what attracted you back then. Use different visitation dates to assure your inmate by actions that you are still loyal.
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Planning visits in a way that the inmate gets the most out of them will help with the mental challenges of being incarcerated. Just knowing that you remember when you two found out about the baby, or the first day you got your house, etc., will assure him or her that you remember the good times, and that you will stand strong through this together.