Society does not like sex offenders, but you love someone who was convicted as one. This puts you in an awkward position sometimes. Whether your loved one did it or not is now irrelevant when it comes to society’s attitudes. A conviction is all that matters. The following tips will help you navigate life while loving a sex offender.
Be cautious with mail: Unless your loved one gives you permission to do so, never mention what he or she was convicted of in a letter. Inmates who want to know what someone was charged with have no problem tossing a cell to seek the answers. While there are many ways in prison or jail to find out your loved one is a convicted sex offender, don’t let your letter be the way.
Telling friends: Whom you tell is up to you, but know that some of your friends may not understand this situation. Your loved one can be one of the most charming, helpful, articulate people on earth and some of your friends are only going to hear the words “sex offense,” regardless. Almost everyone in America knows of someone who has been the victim of sexual abuse. It may have been them personally, a relative, a neighbor or a friend. Because of that knowledge, they are going to disagree with your decision not to cut your loved one out of your life. If you feel confident you have made the right decision, let the friend’s opinion roll off your back.
Learn the laws: Most sex offenders have to register as soon as they are released. Depending on the type of sex offense conviction, your loved one may have restrictions on where he or she can live. For example, living within 1,500 feet of a school, church or daycare might be prohibited. Find out the rules well in advance of your loved one’s release so you can make living arrangements early.