Visiting jail for the first time? Here’s what to expect.

Visiting an inmate in jail for the first time is like waiting to see a dentist. The anticipation and worry constantly increases until you are there and you realize it was not as bad as you thought it would be. Knowing what to expect before that first jail visit will reduce your anxiety.

Expect to Show Identification

You will have to show a valid, government-issued, photo ID or… Read more

Inmate & Family Issues

Inmate Visitation Rules: Who can an inmate add to their visiting list?

Outside of federal prison, your husband had lots of friends and family members to socialize with, but now that he has become a federal inmate, the government severely limits who he can and cannot have visit him. The rules are pretty strict and knowing them will help the two of you choose wisely for the approved list.

Federal Bureau of Prisons General Visiting Info

Immediate family members… Read more

Inmate & Family Issues

Prison Visit: I’m Scared-What Should I Expect?

With shows like Lockdown broadcasting from prisons in every state, you can get a good idea what your boyfriend’s life is like in prison, but what’s it like for visitors? There are very few accurate television depictions of visiting a prison. This leaves you to figure it out. Here are some helpful suggestions.

Check the prison website. Most of them will have a visitor handbook for you to read… Read more

Contacting Inmates

Jail Calls: How Will He Call Me From Jail?

He is in county jail and wants to call but the jail phones don’t allow collect calls out. You will need to open an account with whatever company the jail has a contract with. The following steps will help you get it done.

Call the jail: Ask the jail personnel what company the jail has contracted with for phone calls out. They will give you the name of the… Read more


Boyfriend got arrested in my car – how do I get it back?

Your boyfriend calls from jail and says he was arrested in your car. Why didn’t the police call you? Typically the car gets impounded because if the cops leave it at the side of the road and someone hits it, they might be liable. Getting it back will depend upon what your boyfriend’s charges are.

Anything but drugs

If he doesn’t have a drug charge involving your vehicle… Read more

Inmate & Family Issues

Parental incarceration: How to tell young children a parent is in jail or prison?

The children know he is gone but they aren’t sure where. Why doesn’t he come home or come to see them? When a parent gets locked up, letting children make their own assumptions is worse than  giving them honest information.  Left to their imagination they might come to believe the parent had died or made the decision to stop loving them and walked away. Here are some ways to let… Read more


What Does Being In The Hole Mean?

You just got word that your loved on is “in the hole.” What does that mean? It means he or she has been moved to a segregated area of the jail or prison and given a one-person cell. Typically, an inmate is put in the hole as a form of punishment. Being in the hole is like being grounded but on steroids. All contact with other inmates is taken away… Read more

Inmate Visitation

What If I Can’t Visit an Inmate As Much as I Would Like To?

When someone you love is sent to jail or prison, your instinct is to visit them at every visiting opportunity. The reality in many cases is that it can’t be done. Inmates get moved from prison to prison sometimes. You have children, a job, and social obligations. How do you balance supporting your loved one with visits, while still keeping things together outside?

Visit when you can. Whether you… Read more