When he calls, it is a natural instinct to talk to him about what’s going on in your life, but be careful. Never lie to him, but be smart about what topics you bring up to speak about. These 5 things should probably wait for an in person visit or for when he comes home.
- Your ex tried to contact you. Imagination is strong when you live in a cell. Shut the ex down, send him on his way and let it be.
- Late notices. You can’t keep everything from him, but he doesn’t need to know about every late notice in the mail. He already worries about you. Rely on others more for financial discussions, advice and help during his incarceration, since these matters are mostly beyond his control. Keep them to a minimum unless these discussions are in direct relation to monies you are putting on his account.You may be interested in: Financial Problems Between Married People
- You have problems with his family. The last thing he needs to hear is that the people he loves most in the world cannot get along in his absence. If you and his family have problems, simply avoid interacting with them when possible. Never put them down to him. Take the high road for his sake.
- Issues with his kids’ mom. When he got locked up it suddenly put you in the position of dealing with her directly. Knowing that his kids are doing well is more important than telling him what a nut job their mother is.
- Guys that hit on you. He loves you; you don’t have to prove to him that you are desirable. Concentrate on letting him know how much you love him and leave the jealousy triggers out of it.
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You shouldn’t lie to him when he asks direct questions - that can cause problems down the road, but it is important to remember he has to deal with not being able to get out and take care of things with you. Use caution when discussing topics that are going to hurt, anger or upset him. Keep in neutral and positive.
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